The subject of Apologies always seems to come with a lot of baggage.\u00a0 I think mostly because it reminds us humans of things we have personally messed up on or it reminds us of those who have wronged us. \u00a0Hard subject I know which is why I am bringing it up Today!!!<\/p>\n
Let\u2019s start here:\u00a0 If we can remember that our response to others is important, then and only then we will realize that trust and forgiveness go hand-in-hand when it comes to this subject!.<\/p>\n
As humans we will always be affected by the actions of others. If something weird happens during an interaction, one hopes that we all too often will receive an apology, well hopefully!<\/p>\n
But here is the key to this whole subject\u2026 What is your response when that happens? Do you say to the other person… “It’s alright,” or “It’s okay,” or \u201cI understand\u201d? I know for one I do this all the time.\u00a0 But here\u2019s the kicker… by giving these particular responses you are allowing and giving permission for the bad behavior that happened in the first place to happen again.\u00a0Not cool.<\/p>\n
If you learn to change your response to say something like “thank you,” or “I accept your apology,” you are still acknowledging the persona and their apology but you are then giving yourself time to sit with your feelings and confront them instead of ignoring them. Which is better in the long run!<\/p>\n
Here is a question for you.\u00a0 So you feel that it is easier to brush off how you \u00a0really feel about a bad situation than to express your discomfort or \u201cnot Ok witness\u201d (yep I made that up) with something that happened to you that ended up being followed by an apology?<\/p>\n
Well I am here to tell you that even though this may at first seem like the right thing to do it is not.\u00a0 Reality is then you are contributing to the motion by not stopping the bad pattern of behavior; all because you are not being honest and open with the other person.\u00a0 Instead this behavior allows the cycle of letting them overstep your emotional boundaries, time and time again. Here is a NEWS FLASH by brushing things off you are plying the VICTIM!!!<\/p>\n
Here is the EMPOWERING way to go – acknowledge the other person that you accept their comments for forgiveness.\u00a0 The next step is the hard part.\u00a0 You must tell the other person gently and with love your true concerns about what happened.\u00a0 By doing this you will both become more empowered and able to move forward!!!<\/p>\n
Your voice is important for yourself and for others too!\u00a0 Trust and forgiveness go hand in hand and when you do the above honesty and truth will be way more EMPOWERING in the end!<\/p>\n
Peace and Happiness<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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