\u00a0\u201cThere is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you<\/p>\n
When you take nothing personally.\u201d ~Don Miguel Ruiz<\/p>\n
Question… Any of you reading this ever the chunky or shy little kid who kept to themselves? Maybe you hid behind a parent or sibling as your protector?\u00a0 Only to find out when in the \u201creal\u201d world you were exposed to criticism or judged some, maybe even a lot, maybe even daily\u2026<\/p>\n
Well guess what, unless you were taught as a kid to take it as a learning moment, you went on to becoming an adult, and yup, you guessed it, you are still allowing yourself to give into being affected by judgments, aimed towards you as an adult (directly or indirectly), doesn\u2019t matter what the topic is, physical attributes, not good enough at a job, or maybe even being judged as a friend, one who is to caring or not caring enough, doesn\u2019t matter it is all judging.\u00a0 Our society somehow always strives for perfection, but funny thing is, no one knows who it is that sets those standards?<\/p>\n
When I was a kid, people used to tell me I built a huge shell around me to avoid hurting and everyone thought something was wrong with me because of it.\u00a0 Well guess what, I like to think of it as I learned at an early age to just not let judgments get to me, because they were other people\u2019s issues, not mine.\u00a0 I also learned to try and not judge. I remember learning early on, that we all encounter many types of people along our journey, who will attempt to put us down, try to move us onto another road based on \u201ctheir\u201d perfect journey or who frankly will try to break our spirit. Unfortunately, these people judge and pass on judgments and people who judge people will sometimes continue to be connected to us through our life, on this planet, as humans.\u00a0 I know for a fact there are great people too!!!\u00a0 But that is another blog I can\u2019t wait to write!!!<\/p>\n
Moving on – We as humans need to learn to not carry around the words and judgments we hear at different points in our life as if they were written in stone and added into the code of our hearts. I know it is not always easy to deflect how certain words or judgements make us feel, but we can search deep within our hearts, to realize when those words and judgements become detrimental to who we are and how we live our lives, and then we can choose to walk away, not listen and then move on! We do not have to give in to the \u201cperfection\u201d ideas of others, just because we are humans, living on planet \u201cperfect\u201d earth.<\/p>\n
There are a few key things to remember in life\u2026 One of them being\u2026. never allow others to make you feel one way or another and do not allow someone else try to shape you, instead take all information you can and put it to work for \u201cme, myself and I\u201d all by yourself, because, only then can you truly be happy with the person you have become!\u00a0\u00a0 I am thankful that my grandmother taught me early on in life.<\/p>\n
OK, so let me get to the point of this blog\u2026 because we all know I always have one LOL – life has been a bit hard lately.\u00a0 I am not complaining I am just stating a fact.\u00a0 We all go through these times in our lives for sure and I guess now is my time to just think and think and think\u2026. as my neighbor would say \u201cthere are high and low points\u201d of life. I don\u2019t like that I have fallen into this way of thinking lately, so I am working very hard on my way back, to my way of thinking\u2026I like to say it this way\u2026. \u201cWe all have times in our lives, \u201chigh and higher points\u201d that show us, teach us and remind us who we are.\u201d<\/p>\n
I say\u2026 \u201cWhy should hard times be low points, for goodness sakes, I think they are teaching moments and so they are still high points for me, for I would not be who I am today if I did not have these points all of them.\u201d<\/p>\n
Seems that recently, I am feeling that I am not living up \u201cMy\u201d standards of love, friendship, or just human life and I have become my own worst enemy at judging myself.\u00a0 I think I have allowed myself to fall victim to judgments even though I know better!\u00a0 I realized a few days ago, I stopped doing good deeds, just because, I slowed down my fun adventurous things in my life, because I was afraid of the judgments of others all of the sudden. I took a long hard look at this recently and it seems that it has taken me 50 years to allow a judgement get to me, wth?\u00a0 Shoot, I know better and I know not to listen and to be frank, I used to be very proud that I lived my life not caring about this, but seems I fell into the black hole of allowing a couple stupid judgments get into my head and allowing it to affect my actions or lack of\u2026.<\/p>\n
Anybody feel me here? Anybody allow this to happen?\u00a0 OK, so, this is why I\u2019m writing this today!\u00a0 I want to remind us all, that we need to stop allowing stupid judgments of us (and of others) and let go of toxicity in our lives and to just break free and move on! I guess I\u2019ll hope that this has got us all thinking, about not judging or allowing judgments either towards you or towards another because it is not ok its hurtful and it takes people down!! I hope by sharing this we can all make moves towards a goal of acceptance of who we all are no matter how different that may be!\u00a0 Remember w can agree to disagree and still be friends and help each other.\u00a0 We can also talk to each other o find out why someone does something instead of judging first and maybe just maybe we would learn why someone does something which might not be from a place of happiness but that of helplessness.<\/p>\n
Peace out!<\/p>\n
Shugar<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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