Open yourself up to allowing to be helped and you might
just find a deep feeling of gratitude
I don’t know about any of you reading this, but I know for me personally I pride myself in the fact that I can usually be self-sufficient. I like it when I can take care of myself at all times and I do not have to rely on others. However, through recent events I have found things very challenging because I have had to actually ask for help! Eek!
Recently, there was a death in my family, my mom to be specific and let me tell you it hit me like a ton of bricks, still does daily. I had to learn or reality is I had to just give into the fact, that, I needed to and still do on some days rely on my friends and family to help me through. I have always been taught I can do anything by myself, but you know what, this time I could not and this is a hard lesson to learn while going through the daily motions after my mom dying.
So here is what I am learning and want to share. The first step is that we all need to accept what is happening in real time and just accept the help. Yup true just give in, let go and let it happen, help is a good thing and it is ok. I think by accepting help we move into letting go of our egos a little more and move deeper into allowing healing and the nourishing our souls by allowing things to just be… I have learned, that by allowing others to help, I realize, that in fact, I am not alone on this journey and I can learn from this experience and move into a better understanding of what it means to help others when it is my turn to do so!
As humans, I think we feel vulnerable or somehow it makes us feel less or week if we can’t handle something, which is so far from the truth. I almost think that this is a necessary connection. If we don’t allow it or see that it is needed in our personal life how do we learn empathy and how to really help others? Funny thought right. Without allowing help we have no way of slowing down and seeing that we to can in fact just “be” even if it is during a vulnerable time, and without experiencing it firsthand I feel we cannot fully grow as a spirit. This is a whole new level of understanding the comment allow yourself to just be…
It took a lot of strength and I resisted for a while to accept that I needed help and that yes, I had limitations, but you know what it was ok to just accept it, and just go into the receiving flow. Somedays I feel I can get back to “doing it all” until, that is, I fall and just have to let go again. I hope to come back stronger than ever by going through this process but knowing more so than ever, being stronger also means accepting help sometimes!
So, I guess the reason for this short blog today is to just put it out there that it is ok to receive, it is ok to fall and it is ok to just be…. Until that time, you are ready to move through to the next step, which is different for everybody and why getting help is actually the answer😊
Peace out
